There’s an assumption sex in the throes of new lust is hot, but in long-term relationships it’s three humps in missionary. Does married sex need a rebrand?In my youth, when my friends and I first started dating people, nothing was off-limits when it came to talking about our sex lives. But now, after being married for 17 years, the closest I’ve come to discussing my sex life is with my obstetrician. Not hot.Sex talk isn’t off-limits when we’re with friends who are single, dating or in new relationships. So why is mentioning anything about sex in long-term relationships kind of cringe? Continue reading...
Thursday 30 October 2025
theguardian - 23 hours ago
Nothing used to be off-limits when talking about sex. Now I’m in a long-term relationship, why is it taboo? | Natasha Sholl
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